Parenting a tween is no joke. No handbook can prepare you for the chaos of parenting tweens! One minute they need a hug, the next they are slamming the door. The emotional rollercoaster of the middle school years leaves many parents wondering: “Am I doing this right?”
On a recent episode of the Minute Mastery Podcast, I sat down with Bridget K. Morris, a licensed marriage and family therapist, certified parent coach, author of Self-Regulation 101 for Teens, and mother of seven. Bridget’s unique perspective blends clinical expertise with lived experience, making her advice relatable, realistic, and deeply impactful.
In this post, we explore her Steady & Connected Parenting framework and share tools you can use right now to reconnect with your tween without losing yourself along the way.
Nothing can prepare you for the chaos of parenting tweens. The middle school years often bring identity shifts, emotional highs and lows, and boundary-pushing behaviors. As Bridget explained, many parents begin to feel like they are losing their child, and themselves, in the chaos.
One key reason this happens? We tend to parent from our own childhood experiences.
“We are always a product of how we were brought up,” I shared during our conversation. “Unless we pause and choose differently, we end up parenting on autopilot.”
Bridget agrees! And that is where her UPDATE Method comes in.
The UPDATE Method: Inner Work That Transforms Parenting.
Bridget created the UPDATE Method to help parents regulate their emotions and rewrite outdated narratives. It is an acronym that helps you remember six steps to becoming a calmer, more present parent:
The UPDATE Method is more than just a coping strategy, it is a healing process. It invites us to break cycles and show up with intention.The ARE Parent Model: Small Moments, Big Connection
Being a present parent doesn’t mean spending hours crafting Pinterest-worthy memories. According to Bridget, emotional connection is built in everyday moments.
She recommends the ARE Parent approach, which stands for:
Bridget reminds us that you don’t have to get it right 100% of the time. In fact, research shows that attunement happens about 30% of the time in healthy parent-child relationships.
The key? Repair.The REPAIR Process: What to Do When Things Go Sideways
Conflict is normal in any relationship, especially with tweens who are learning independence. Bridget’s REPAIR model teaches parents how to reconnect after moments of rupture, whether it is yelling, shutting down, or saying something we regret.
A quick overview of the process:
One of the most powerful takeaways? You can’t tell your child too many times that they are important. “I delight in you” goes deeper than “I love you,” especially during the turbulent tween years.
What if you have done everything to build a relationship with your child and they break rules?
Many parents worry about being too lenient or too harsh. Bridget offers a version of the repair process that helps you respond with firmness and connection when your child crosses a boundary (like downloading a banned app or lying about homework).
The goal is not perfection or permissiveness. It is to help your child learn accountability while preserving your relationship.
Bridget’s final message is one all parents need to hear:
“You matter, too. Your joy matters. And when you are present and regulated, it opens the door for deeper connection with your child.”
Whether you are raising your first tween or your fourth, remember: You do not have to do this perfectly you just have to show up consistently.
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More from Bridget K. Morris
Self-Regulation 101 Workbook for Teens – Available on Amazon
Follow Bridget on Instagram: @bridget.parentcoach
Coaching & Group Programs: Available via her website or social channels
Want the full conversation?
Listen to the episode: “Staying Calm and Connected Through the Chaos of Parenting Tweens”
→ Available now on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, and YouTube.
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